Friendship day

The first Sunday of every august has been set as the day to celebrate Friendship day in many countries including India. This day was initially created by the greeting card industry and has been spread all around the world of social networking sites.

If you consider Indian mythology, the  one of the earliest known friendship was between lord Shri Krishna and Arjuna and Shri Krishna rode his friend Arjuna to victory in Mahabharata.

A friend is actually a person who isn't forced to be with you because he is not related to you by blood, but he still chooses to be with you and steer you through your joys, your sorrows, your success, your failure. So marking a day commending that effort makes total sense.

Now, back to love and other disasters. Someone asked me whether lovers who suffer a break up, can mend things by the means of friendship.

Well, 'mend things' is  a very subjective term. If you are looking for companionship in your ex lover, then that is very much possible because you have spent a lot of time with them and they know you inside out so they can be a great help in solving your problems.

But if you are hoping for anything more than companionship then you are on the wrong track and it won't lead to any place good. Even if you guys get back together, eventually you will part ways because a glass once shattered can't be mended. You will just end up raising your hopes and end up with a broken heart all over again. So it is best to have a complete cut off because the logic is quite simple.The brain processes whatever input information it gets. So if the information  is about that person then you will never be able to move on.

There is a very thin line between love and addiction. Thanks to movies, people often confuse love with addiction. You get habituated to the other person's presence in your life and think of that habituation as love.The difference between love and addiction is that love is selfless. You keep on doing things for the other person even if the other person doesn't notice. Addiction is more about the need than the want. You need the other person for survival but that doesn’t mean that person can’t be replaced.

Another comment said "Don't you think your ex-girlfriend (the one you wrote about) deserves to be treated better because you are a man who is full of himself. You call yourself heartless but there is no such thing as 'Love is magic'. Not in the traditional genie in a bottle kind of way. But there is a magic in knowing that while not everything can be repaired, most everything can be improved and worked on. There are some feelings that refuse to go away. Try as you might, you can't control yourself from falling for someone."

Well, I think that I treated her in the best possible way. Nothing can be better than a break up with a person like me, who is so full of himself. And I don't need magic to improve upon things, I like them the way they are. Another thing, I am not controlling myself from falling for someone, it just isn't happening.

You can share some incident with me. The incident doesn't need to be pertaining to love and other disasters. It could be any incident from your life which you want to share. Mail me at sid1391990@gmail.com. You can even leave it anonymously in the comments section of the survey.

Later
Sidhant
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